I’m not sure if you really, truly know this but you CAN get what you want; whatever you want. Whether that be in your career, your love life, your business, your health, your relationships, your spirituality, etc, etc. You can get more than what you have right now. You can accomplish more than you’ve ever achieved up to this day. You can be more ambitious, in control and powerful…way more than you’ve ever imagined.
And I promise you, it’s not as hard as you would think.
However, there’s something important you have to know and understand first. One of my mentors told me; “If you are not clear on what you truly desire, you’ll never get it. Not in a million years.”
Becoming crystal clear on what you want leads to power and power is the ability to do or act. The number one reason people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know or are not clear on exactly WHAT they want.
Most of the people I serve, when I ask them about their goals or their vision for what they most want in life, they really don’t know and are kind of vague with their answer. Once I really ask the right questions to make them think about it, it finally gets clear and specific. Getting clear on what you want is the most important first step. We can all get there with a little honesty, deep digging and the right person pulling the answers out of them!
It took me years to realize this myself. I was so sure I wanted what “everybody else” wanted. Or worse, what I believed everyone else thought I should have or who they thought I should be; my parents, my husband at the time, any and all boyfriends, my brothers, society, the media, etc, etc.
I never once asked myself “What do I want to do with my life?” I always followed someone else’s advice or lead or believed (falsely) that I had expectations to live up to outside of me. Apparently, I didn’t trust myself enough to decide for myself. Even writing this makes me want to puke! I can’t believe that was me. I feel like I’m writing about someone else.
Once I finally became aware of this self defeating behaviour and limiting belief, I found myself well into my 40s unhappy, unfulfilled, unsupported and absolutely not living my true purpose. I was always living out someone else’s dreams. I’m telling you right now, it’s not worth it! Once I started to admit to myself that this was my pattern, that was my spiral downward. Which I look at today as a good thing. I needed to bring it all to my awareness, acknowledge it, forgive myself and let it go!
I decided it was time to start living my life the way I wanted to live it. I’m giving you permission right here and now to be selfish! And I’m not talking about forgetting about everyone and everything and shutting yourself off from the world; your people still need you! I’m talking about taking a good look inside and deciding what you want, what you really want; without considering too many outside influences that mean well but can’t know what you want.
The second reason people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know WHY they want it. Your why is critical because it is the reason you want what you want! Your why is the motivation and the emotion behind your WHAT. Without that emotion there is no energy to take inspired, purposeful and courageous action and make the changes necessary to achieve what you want.
So the two big questions you have to ask yourself are: 1) “What do I want?” and 2) “Why do I want it?”
Since answering these question myself, I’m now always focused and dedicated to walk my path… and my path alone. Whatever distractions and roadblocks come my way, I can swat them away or smash them to the ground because I am clear and emotionally connected to my why. My why gives me the guts and fortitude to overcome and push through the challenges. It feels so powerful!
I can now be ambitious, brave, driven and certain in my decisions with zero self-doubt. I know what I want, and I know what I need to do to get it done. And nothing can stop me.
Answering these questions also changed my life on a personal level. I trust myself now. I learned how to follow my heart and my instincts. I’m no longer angry and depressed anymore. Gone are the days when I would rather go to bed and sleep my worries away. Instead, I wake up with a ton of energy because of how excited I am to conquer each day.
My thoughts and actions are no longer based on scarcity and lack like it used to for most of my life. That was a huge shift for me!
Have you ever noticed how even if you have good, well-meaning, well-thought-out, and well-planned goals, this self-sabotage mechanism convinces us to stay safe and average, and makes us believe that anything that may lead to success and greatness as risky and unsafe?
So we end up wanting, hoping, and even praying for a better life…
But it never happens for us because our conscious thoughts and actions run away from it, against our will. And even when we do try our hardest, we somehow find ways to shoot ourselves in the foot. This was me exactly! And it’s normal and it doesn’t mean you’ll never succeed and get what you want. You will if you just become aware of your inner, deepest most limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in this never ending loop of self-sabotage.
Forgive yourself. These downward spirals have been cemented in your conscious mind for a long time and are deeply rooted. Most of us don’t even know we have these thoughts. Once you do know, everything will change.
You may not know this yet or perhaps you already know it deep in your gut but you are meant for great things. I’m not saying this lightly; I believe it’s 100% true. I’m not talking about destiny, fate, or predetermination. I’m not a big fan of the stars and the mystical stuff.
But what I am a big fan of, is, action. Specifically, massive aligned inspired and purposeful action. Action that takes you forward to your hopes and dreams.
You don’t have to be special, famous, rich, or talented to do great things. As long as you’re taking action toward your greatest, most authentic purpose.
My goal is to help you get clear on your what and why and then give you the guidance and tools one exactly how to take the right kind of action to get whatever it is that you want in your life.
I am working on creating workshops and support groups to get you the results you want! And I also offer one-on-one coaching. My goal and passion is to help you to: eliminate self-doubt and unlock the confidence, inner-power, and success that’s waiting for you, to feel connected to your inner power and begin to trust your intuition, love and appreciate yourself (no matter what), defeat negative self-talk, make decisions with clarity and courage, free yourself from inner blocks and limiting beliefs, stop anxiety and overwhelm from sabotaging your success, be the best version of you (whatever that vision is for you) and to shine your light and live your life’s purpose!
Here’s the truth. You have full control over your choices in life. It’s time to believe that you can take inspired and courageous action to get the life you want; the life you never thought you could have.
Please let me know if you’re interested in attending workshops or working with me one-on-one and I’ll keep you in the loop on times, dates and locations for group workshops.
And I always love your feedback, so please email me with any questions or comments or if any of this resonated with you in any way!
Sending you all my support,